So it occurs to me that I'm fast approaching the third trimester aka the home stretch.
And that I will be having a baby THIS year. 2012 is exciting for that reason alone. Before the new year arrived, Little Lady's arrival was something that was happening 'next year.' That seemed like a looong time away.
Suddenly, it is a mere 3.5 months from now.
In the last few weeks, a serious 'pop' has occurred, belly-wise.
It makes me a little nervous when I look at my belly and wonder just how much bigger I can get. Which is silly because I've done this twice before and thusly, know the answer to that is, "Much, much, MUCH bigger."
Pregnant belly size. Surely, this should be a sacred thing, exempt from judgement, either by ourselves or others. But it's not, is it? Nope, even during pregnancy we berate ourselves or are passive aggressively (and sometimes just aggressively) graded on the way we carry our babies.
I have been heavily pregnant three times now and can say that I have carried very similarly each time. Nausea and exhaustion have meant that I have NOT eaten particularly carefully each time. Genetically, I am lucky to carry in a way that people describe as "all baby." I typically gain around 12 kilos each time and by the pointy end of the pregnancy, my belly is pretty damned big. But then, my torso measures about 10 centrimetres from knockers to navel so where else can baby go but out?
I am comfortable with my pregnant body.
Mostly, people are flattering. But I have also had people tell me how HUGE my belly is. When I was pregnant with Ziggy, a tradesmen who had to return to my house two weeks in a row commented that I had gotten "MUCH bigger since last week!"
Hey, thanks for noticing, fuckwit!
A friend once relayed, with some pride, how most people couldn't tell she had a belly even at the end of her pregnancy.
Another woman, small of stature, was lavishly praised for her tiny tum, particularly when it was discovered that she had been carrying a 10 pound baby. Just where had she been hiding it?
I can't imagine any woman not being stoked if the same comments were made to or about her. No woman wants to be told she is anything but small, even in the final weeks of her pregnancy.
But the simple truth is, every body is different and so it follows that each body will have a unique way of carrying the baby within.
Yes, some of us over-indulge during pregnancy and put on a bit more beef than might be advisable (celebs tend to really blow out which is an excellent indicator of how they must deprive themselves normally to stay so very thin). Others will naturally carry small. I think a pregnant belly is beautiful no matter what - big and blooming or a compact little tum.
Surely, pregnancy is the one domain where the female form should have no ideal. If you're mostly eating nutritious food, managing a bit of a walk with some regularity and that little bub is growing nicely, then your belly is perfect just the way it is.