The Little Daily: R U OK?

by | Sep 13, 2012 | Little Daily | 8 comments

Tits Ahoy!

Here I am on my thirtieth birthday. I look happy, don't I? And why wouldn't I? My tits were AHHH-MAZING.

The truth is, I had just had a miscarriage and was feeling very fragile. 

I was heartbroken, but to the rest of the world, I looked fine.

People are incredibly resilient. We survive many obstacles in a lifetime. 

But people are also excellent actors. Shiny, happy exteriors provding the perfect subterfuge for inner turmoil.

The above photo is nothing new. I have been doing this for years.

Bubbly, loud, funny, fun – adjectives used to describe me.

And yet, I have a long history of depression and a slightly less long history of anxiety. Mental illness has prevented me from living fully at different points in my life.

At this particular point, I require anti-depressants in order to be okay.

That is my truth. For now. 

Many people have asked me, "Don't you worry about taking those drugs long term? Don't you want to get off them?"*

Yes and yes.

But you know what worries me more? Falling apart in front of my family. Exposing my children to the dangerous lows associated with my untreated depression. Subjecting myself to the terror of unchecked anxiety.

I know what is more important.

In the future, who knows?

But for now, I am so happy that I can answer the question, "R U OK?" with a resounding YES.

So how about you? R U OK? 

If the answer is no or maybe you're not sure, know that there is no shame in reaching out. I started with a GP I trusted. Maybe you can, too.

Today is R U OK Day. Check out the website here.


*Would a Type 1 diabetic be asked the same question of taking Insulin? How about cancer patients of Chemo? No-one wants to be dependent on a medication but it sure beats the alternative.

Hello friends


I’m Angie!  I mum. I write. I wife. My husband would say this is the correct order.  He’s so neeeedy. I live with my family in Melbourne, Australia, where I complain about the weather for 90% of the year – but I can’t imagine living anywhere else. Except maybe in Lake Como, waving to my neighbours George and Amal each morning.

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  1. Victoria KP

    I think you and I had the same type of 30th birthday. Sigh. I’m glad you’re okay! Keep doing what you’re doing 🙂

  2. Angie @ The Little Mumma

    That would make me sad except that I end up saying I’m okay so I assume you are, too. I hope so. xxx

  3. Vicki @ Knocked Up and Abroad

    This is a beautifully honest post Angie. Snaps for you, truly. Depression is a resident in our household too and your post has made me realise how ok it is to admit that. A doctor explained taking anti depressents to us like this: if you had a broken leg would you let it go untreated? So why would you allow this to go untreated? When he put it so straightforward, it made sense. Not a permanent thing hopefully just something to help get by a bit of an injury, one which isn’t physical or noticeable to the outside, but none the less there and requiring a bit of healing power for the time being. I’m glad you’re doing what you need to do and you’re ok 🙂


    Nicely written!

  5. Robin Farr

    Popping in late just to say this: Love you!


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